There are a lot of reasons why your family should
come first in your life especially your parents and
siblings. You however get to a point where you have
to reconsider that stance. The moment you fall in
love and decide to spend the rest of your life with
someone, people on your priority scale begin to
change.
From that moment, you and your spouse have to be
first on each other’s priority scale but this is not
to say you should abandon your parents, it simply
means your spouse has become top priority. If
you’re wondering why your spouse should come
first, here are five reasons why.
-It Shows You Respect Your Spouse
When you partner is top on your priority list, it
helps to build a strong bond between you two. If
you have a spouse that continually runs to their
parents or siblings for advice instead of first
talking to their partner, chances of distrusting
them would arise. Talking about your problems
together as a couple can help to create a united
solution which in turn strengthens your
relationship. When you talk together as a couple
about your problems and seek answers in a united
way, it strengthens your marriage. Parents this is
not to say advice can’t be sought from family; if
so, such should be done when your partner is
present. Overall, running to your family shouldn’t
be the first point of call.
-It’s Indicative Of a Strong Relationship
When you put your spouse first, you are bound to
have a strong relationship as opposed to when
others come first. Putting others ahead of a
spouse would make your spouse feel useless and
insecure which is bound to create more problems
for the relationship. When you put your spouse
first, your family and your spouse will recognize
how important your relationship is to you.
-It Helps Create Intimacy With Your Spouse
When you put your partner first, there’s a huge
chance that the both of you can understand and
meet each others needs. Sharing your thoughts and
experiences with your spouse can help develop
intimacy that would open more romantic doors. It
is however hard to achieve intimacy if you don’t
feel like the numero uno in your partner’s life.
When your family has that number one spot, there
is a chance that this would be difficult to achieve.
It is important you maintain a level of closeness to
your parents but avoid the pothole of letting it
jeopardize your marriage.
You Know They Would Be There When Things Get
Tough
When your partner is on the top of your priority
list, their loyalty is assured. You’ve kept each
other at the top of the list, there will be no
question about loyalty to and from your spouse.
Things are bound to get tough at some point in time
and knowing that your spouse would be there for
you irrespective of what happens is comforting to
say the least. When you and your partner keep
each other at the top of one another’s priority
list, you are subconsciously assured that you will
both be there for each other through the hard
times. Love and support from family is also
important to have but at the end of the day, it is
your partner that would be by your side for life.
When Everyone Leaves, Your Spouse Would Be The
Person Left
Another reason to have your spouse as number one
in your life is that your they can help to make the
pain of losing a family member less painful. If you
keep a proper balance between loving your parents
and spouse, you’re bound to have sweeter
memories when your parents go to the great
beyond just as you’d have a stronger relationship
through it all.
It is however important to not push away your
family but find a formula which incorporates them
and your spouse. Maintaining a closely knit
relationship with your family can have an effect on
your relationship with your spouse. A relationship
that keeps everyone happy can be built with your
spouse still retaining the top spot in your life.
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