5 ways to meet Mr Right in Lagos

A lot of female visitors who storm Lagos have romance at the back of their minds as they hope to meet the guy that would sweep them off their feet during their stay. Unfortunately, while single men are literally everywhere in the city, meeting quality single guys can be an arduous task. Everyone seems to be so busy, and the ones you manage to meet at bars and club may not exactly be what you would consider “quality”.

Truth is, finding eligible men in Lagos could be an elusive game if they are at a loss as to where to meet them. Jovago.com, Africa’s largest online hotel booking portal comes to the rescue with   top 5 ways girls in Lagos who are serious about taking their destiny can meet quality eligible men.

Get your blood pumping at the gym

If you have a gym in your hotel or a sport center around you, take advantage of it. Most of the men in Lagos are fitness conscious and they like to spend quality time at the gym. Basically, you would be killing two birds with one stone: you get to exercise your body, get your blood flowing, and also create opportunities to run into the love of your life!

Most of the men you will meet at the gym would be attractive and responsible as their presence at the gym already shows that they value their health. And do not forget to go for an attractive sports gear as opposed to the normal sweat pants and T-shirt.

Attend weddings

Anyone who lives in Lagos can attest to the fact that wedding are the number one place to meet single quality guys. Forget the lewd assumption that single men at weddings just want to get laid, if you keep that in mind, you will not make progress. Most of the men actually come to wedding to look out for the girls who rush out for the bouquet when the bride throws it to the crowd, that way they know they already stand a chance.

Do not deny any invitation to a wedding, especially when it is a friend or someone of good reputation. Just ensure you look great, keep a smile and look approachable, dance like your life depends on it, and of course, fight for that bouquet when you see it high up in the air.

Go to church

Rather than sit in your hotel room or place of accommodation on the Sunday while visiting, why not get up, get dressed and head out to church? You never know who you would meet and what better way to meet a quality single guy than coming across him in the presence of the lord? There is none better than a man who has high regard for God and stays committed to his religion. There is a higher chance of things working out with him, as most of the single men in church are in search of opportunities for serious relationships. The bonus is that you get to meet someone who shares the same faith and moral grounding as well. Luckily, there are a number of churches around Lagos that you visit.

Take a stroll at a private beach

Put meeting the perfect single guy on the side, visiting the private beaches or resorts in Lagos can be a rewarding experience on its own. From La Campagne Tropicana to  Kampe Ikare, Atican beach  or just Oniru beach, there are boundless opportunities to run into eligible men.

There are basically three kinds of guys you will see at the beach: those who are there alone, those with their group of male friend (their behavior will mark them out as single) and those who visit with their baes, girlfriends or wives. The first two are your best bet. Do not feel too shy to approach them and a strike up a conversation…most love stories begin with a few rods spoken.

Make your location visible online

A lot of people in Lagos meet their boyfriends and husbands online via social media apps like Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat Instamessage. In fact, this is the latest method of meeting single men in the city. Social media apps give users opportunities to find others with similar interests close to them. And so, unless your location is visible it might be difficult for guys in the area to see you and hit you up. Make your location visible the moment your feet touch the shores of Lagos and stay online.

If you do not have accounts on any of the social media platforms, search for online dating sites, there are some exclusive to Nigeria and even Lagos.  You can check out profiles and photographs and connect with whoever appeals to you.

Ndem Nkem

Travel/Tech Writer

“Go Back To Your Husband Immediately” – Nigerian Pastor Tells Tiwa Savage

Following the lingering marital crisis involving popular singer, Tiwa Savage and her husband, Tunji Balogun, a.k.a TeeBillz, lover boy “old school” singer-turned- pastor, Felix Aigbe Libarty has called out the couple to save themselves and the Nigerian music industry from further embarrassment by resolving their differences amicably.


Specifically, the “Ifeoma and 419” crooner, begged Tiwa Savage to return to her husband quietly despite the emotional pains she’s going through at the moment. He said:
TeeBillz is under serious attack from the pit of hell, and as such, Tiwa should not allow
the devil to use her husband to destroy her future.


Speaking further, he said:
“It’s one thing to be famous and it’s another to know how to manage fame. I want her (Tiwa Savage) to go back to her husband immediately because there is no divorce spiritually except when the man is no more. I want her to know that if God wants to announce any woman that is matured, He will always match her with a man. In this case, that is what God has done for her.”


“I want Tiwa Savage to begin to understand that whatever is happening to her now is an attack from the pit of hell. Her husband is in deep trouble. I am sure that his pastor has not been able to tell him that he’s under attack.

The devil may not attack you directly, it will attack your partner. Spiritually, as I am seeing it, her husband (TeeBillz) is under attack. Every behaviour her husband is exhibiting now is manipulated.

The Bible says, you have to be there for your husband, and your husband will be there for you. Whatever that is going on now, remains the fact that your husband is being manipulated by spiritual forces that doesn’t want you to grow. And by the time you walk out of your marriage, you are giving the devil the opportunity to destroy your life completely” he counselled.

5 Reasons why she is obsessed with Getting Married

Women rate the idea of marriage very highly. Ask any girl around and she will say that when she has found the right guy, she will want to get married to him as soon as possible. It is in the nature of most women to behave a certain way, and believe it or not, every woman has the natural tendency to settle with the right guy. That’s not all. There is more to it and here are a few reasons why she is obsessed with the idea of getting married:


5. Her parents want her to settle.
Getting married is one of the aims that every woman sets in her life. That is because all her life, her parents have fed this idea into her head. They want her to be with the right man for the rest of her life. Marriage is a bond and a promise to always be there for one another – ‘in sickness and in health’ and ‘for better or for worse’. They don’t want their daughter to be in temporary flukes that will eventually result in breakups and in breaking apart.

4.Everyone forces her to get married.
A woman knows that getting married is an important part of her life. This is because of the society pressure. It is something less common in the developed world, but the all the eastern countries cannot just emphasize enough on this. There, a woman can not just state that she doesn’t want to get married. A woman has to get married. She has to settle. She has no other option, and this is why, certain women are obsessed with this idea of getting married.

3.She has always wanted to be a bride
Now, let me talk about the soft side of a woman. I know am not a girl, but I know how things go. All their lives, when they see a woman rocking her wedding dress, they imagine being there in her place. They tend to melt on the idea of getting married. That’s just how women are! We are cheesy and obsessive, and I believe that this is what makes them beautiful and soft.

2.For the security.
Whether you like it or not, a marriage promises security. Be it emotional, mental, financial or physical security, women realize that getting married brings everything like this in her life. She realizes that she will need all these things at one point in her life. She doesn’t want to be alone and completely independent. The best way to strive in this world is not by being independent, but by being co-dependent, and that is what she wants to offer and gain from a marriage.


1. She wants to be a mother
Women are gifted a maternal instinct by God. Most women tend to be great with kids. They naturally want kids of their own and wanting a kid out of wedlock is always a risky job. There is no promise of that man staying with you. With marriage, there comes a little promise and emotional connection that he will stay there for you and for your child. For that, a woman always dreams about getting married and having the perfect husband around to raise her children with her.


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8 Signs He Is Madly In Love With You

He is just existing in your life: making you daydream, loving you and taking care of you. You cannot stop and wonder how you will respond if things are going to progress for you both. Well if you want to know if all this means that he is madly in love with you, here are a few signs for you.

 

8. He treats you like you’re a celebrity.

They say he is madly in love with you and he cares about you a lot if he brings out the best in you. That is because he sees the good in you and he makes sure that you know it. He tells you that you can move mountains and be the best because nobody understands your potential better than him, and he wants you to reach it.

7. It feels like a dream.

He is madly in love with you if your life suddenly feels like a dream or a page from a fairy tale – or both. He treats you like a queen, loves you and cares for you. He makes sure that he is there for you. He remembers the little details about you and he looks at you with love and respect in his eyes. He is the rock star in your life and he means the world to you.

6. He knows his priorities.

He is madly in love with you if he knows his priorities. He knows where to put you in his life and you can see it very often. He will ditch other people when he knows that you need him. You have never felt the need to remind him of your place in his life because he knows it. He knows your worth and if someone values you this much, never let go of them.

5. He accepts your rawest forms.

He is madly in love with you if he doesn’t care about the way you appear or sound. You can sound as obsessive as you want and you can wear whatever you want, yet he will still not care about it. All he cares about is you and your existence so all of this doesn’t even matter to him – not even one bit!
 

4. He trusts you.

He doesn’t question your intentions if a guy walks up to you to flirt or ask for your number. You’ve never seen him checking your phone or reading your texts. He hasn’t even checked your Facebook inbox in all this time. He is madly in love with you if he trusts you blindly because he knows that you will not leave him and neither will he. He’s a man – not an insecure boy.

3. He respects your family.

He is madly in love with you if he knows that your family is very important to him. He makes sure that he treats them with respect and care. He will be nice to your parents and he will act goofy around your little siblings. He will spend time with them if necessary. In short, you sometimes feel like they should make movies about him because he’s that perfect!

2. You have forgotten your past.

It feels like either the memory is gone or that thinking about any of your previous boyfriend(s) or crush(es) is not just worth it, anymore. If he is madly in love with you, he will make you forget all the wrong ones because his love has the power to do so. All those heartbreaks and tears seem crazy now.

1. He’s your sanity pill.

Women tend to be over-thinkers. They have to analyse and evaluate things excessively and obsessively. I tend to derive results and conclusions and end up upsetting myself. Yet with him around, I am reminded of how there is no need to do any of this. He keeps my thinking real and rational. He is madly in love with you if he does that to you.


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WHY YOU NEVER KEEP TO YOUR PROMISES (MUST READ)

Empty promises are just words that have no meaning and people who make them don't follow through.

 

Sometimes, we meet people who raise our hopes up and everything come crashing down later or we ourselves makes promises to people and don't come through with it.

There are several reasons people make empty promises and some of them may be surprising to you because they are things we can all relate with.

Inspired by All Women Stalk, here are 4 reasons people make empty promises

1. The inability to say ‘No’

Some people have a problem turning down request because they find themselves saying ‘yes’ to everything that comes their way. It’s good to say yes but sometimes you need to know where to draw the line in order to be happy.

 

2. Speaking before thinking

Sometimes we speak too soon without evaluating our needs, energy and time. You realize afterwards that you are caught between fulfilling the promise you made and knowing your limits.

3. The need to please others

No one loves rejection and most times, the need to please stems from the fear of being rejected. Maybe you are desperately trying to belong, so you’ll agree to just about anything at the expense of your happiness.

 

4. To manipulate and persuade

People make empty promises as a means to manipulate another into doing what they want without an intention to follow through. Using empty promises as a means for persuasion can bring distrust between both parties involved.

4 Best Compliments for Nigerian Women over 30

Let’s face it, Nigerian women love compliments more the men do, and when they are clocking 30 and above, the effect of the passage of time on them becomes more visible. Due to the norm in Nigeria where women over the age of 30 are considered “older women”, the single ones especially tend to feel less attractive and conscious of their looks as they no longer feel the rush of being ‘hot’ singles. The married, on the other hand, also battle with feelings of insecurity and also require a measure of reassurance as regards how they look.

Giving compliments is an easy way to make these breed of women feel better about themselves, especially if they have a particularly endearing quality that ensures their insecurities are not well founded. If you are friends with, dating or married to a woman over 30, Jovago.com, Africa’s No.1 online hotel booking site offers 5 best compliments to pay her. Putting a smile on her face will definitely come back to you in positive ways.

“You Are Gorgeous”

The usually compliment would be telling the woman that she is beautiful, but for a woman over 30, she has probably heard the word “beautiful” so many times in her teens and 20’s, and now considers it random or negligible. She may even see the compliment as something impersonal and take no mind to it. The word gorgeous is definitely a lot more powerful than the word beautiful. Swapping the word for “gorgeous”, however, makes her feel much more unique and elegant. She believes you are not just complimenting her for her looks, but you are also her personality and aura.

“You are so trendy”

Keeping up with the trends and fashion is a struggle for most women over 30 in Nigeria. They are at a point in their life where they start to realize that they are no longer as particular about things as they used to be, and the times are totally different. They start to harbor the secret fear that they are no longer current and they no longer what is in vogue. Some of them actually achieve fashionable looks anyways, while some in their determination to be on par with the recent trends tend to overdo it. While telling them they are trendy or fashionable sounds like the most boring lines ever, it can be extremely effective when you say it the right way. It tells her that her style attracted your attention because the way she dresses reveals her personality and her interest.

“You are so smart”

Nigerian women over 30 like to feel powerful and they like to know that others notice their achievements. Telling her she is smart is a good way to make her feel empowered and most importantly feel good about herself. It reveals to her that there is more to her that people notice and her body or beauty looks may not be a pivotal as she is afraid it might be. Also, in the case of the compliment coming from a boyfriend or husband,  it tells her that you respect and appreciate her for the fact that she is more intelligent than the average girl, so, there is less chance of you cheating on her with the pretty or younger faces.

“I feel like I can talk about everything with you”

This is one of the best compliments to pay a Nigerian woman over 30 as it communicates trust, appreciation and love at the same time. At their stage, they are very curious and tend to need a lot of assurance. They like to know that they are important to you enough that you want to confide in her and share your secrets. It also tells her that you appreciate her for the conversations and you have love the time you spend with her. Basically, it tells her that she’s still got it.

Ndem Nkem

Travel/Tech Writer Jovago Nigeria

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8 Ways You Should Never Break Up With Someone You Love

The end of a relationship is always sour for a lot of reasons and one reason that sits at the top of most is the way and manner in which the relationship was called off. As such, instead of looking for the best way to call off a relationship (there isn’t really any better way), it’s best to find know what ways you shouldn’t put an end to a relationship.


Here are 8 of the worst possible ways to put an end to a relationship.


The “It’s not you, it’s me” line
Probably the most cliché and overplayed line, very few people would appreciate this old and recycled excuse when they are about to be dumped by you. If you’re sure you’re the problem, it’s best you explain the exact thing about your partner that doesn’t gel well with your kind of person.
You most likely won’t go very far by telling them the kind of horrible person you are and how much you need to work on yourself in an attempt to deflect from the talk at hand. They will most likely respect you more if you are honest with them.


Getting Caught In An Untoward Act
Allowing your partner catch you cheating is one of the fastest way to get them to break up with you but it speaks volumes about your reputation. If your plan is to make them come up with a reason to leave you, you may end up having your plan blow up in your face if they choose to tow the retaliation path.
While Tipsy or Drunk
Quite a number of men go this way as having a few too many drinks might give them the guts to break the news of wanting to break up. This will be disrespectful to your partner because alcohol gives momentary courage at that point in time and you may likely regret the deed later on.
Chances are your partner may not even take you seriously and insisting on talking about it at a later time because they feel your state of mind is altered. It’s best to be sober and have a clear mind as you convey your points in a mature and respectable manner.
Through Writing
Either through texting, E-mails, BlackBerry Messenger or other messaging applications, breaking up in such an informal way is immature and heartless. It’s best to do it in person as this will likely pass you off as someone with integrity while also saving you from embarrassment.
Picking A Fight
This is one of the most disrespectful ways to quit a relationship. Starting a fight as an excuse to quit a relationship will only get your partner to resent you especially if they end up finding out that you manipulated them by blowing a small issue out of proportion as a means of putting an end to the relationship.
During A Romantic Evening
Breaking up with a partner during a romantic night out will likely cause shock and confusion. The time out does not necessarily mean they will be able to handle the news better as that night will hold negative memories for a long time.
Not Being Straightforward
Beating around the bush while trying to tell her you want a breakup will only make your partner more confused. Even though it’s important not to be blunt so as not to appear like someone without emotions, it is still important not to beat around the bush. If you’re not sure about the right time to tell your partner you’re breaking up with them, they may be shocked and dumbfounded to find out through a friend or on social media.
Getting A Friend To Do It
This one only confirms your legendary status as an uncaring asshole. It also shows how much of a coward you are since you could not even grant your partner the courtesy of breaking up with them while staring into their eyes.

3 ways to handle being a friend to a depressed person

Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses, yet most Nigerian don’t know how to deal with it. Here’s how to handle being a friend to a depressed person. 

 

 

Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses, yet most Nigerian don’t know how to deal with it. Here’s how to handle being a friend to a depressed person. 

Depression is a very delicate state of mind and it takes caution to deal with it. so, how do you deal with a friend with severe depression? Here are three tips to guide you:

Forgiveness:

One of the landmarks of depression is that the symptoms often seem like choices, such as your friend not reaching out to say hi. Once you understand that you are not being targeted but are rather collateral damage from what your friend is going through, then you won’t demand an apology from them. However, depressed people can do wrong in the usual ways that usual people do.

 

True friendship:

Keep in touch, however make it absolutely easy for the person to refuse your contact. For example, you could include in your messages, “No need to call/text back — I just wanted to say hi.” If you see something that reminds you of her, send it, but include a note: “I saw this and thought of you — no need to get back to me.” Removing that duty to respond upfront lets the pure caring shine through.

Both ways:

It’s a great idea that you don’t owe each other any apologies, however, when you do, it reminds you that you care about each other. However, it does need to be a mutual effort. On one hand, the extra mile is to apologize for the other’s misery, although it wasn’t intentional. On the other hand, the extra mile is not waiting for an apology from someone who went through a truly crazy experience.

If you do have a friend or relation who is battling depression, it is a truly serious disease that demands your attention, sensitivity, care and love. Try out these steps and let us know what you think.

 

Healthy Co-Parenting Tips

It is unfortunate that divorce can most times bring out the worst in us. The biggest obstacles to successful co-parenting are emotions like anger, resentment, and jealousy.
Those kinds of emotions make the challenge of co-parenting with your ex more difficult. However, your children still need their mother and their father—whether they still live together or not. Here are five things to remember to help you successfully co-parent together.

• It Is Not About You: It is about your kids. If the adults involved just remember that it is about the kids, there would not be near as many challenges. Commit to putting your children’s well-being ahead of any issues you may have with your ex. It takes maturity and dedication to let go of past wounds and bitterness, but it will make a difficult situation much easier.

• Always Treat The Other Parent With Respect. No matter how difficult this may be, it is imperative you treat your children’s mother/father with respect—regardless of how they treat you. Not only does this help keep a civil relationship between you and your ex, it is also in the best interests of your children.

• Keep Lines of Communication Open With Co-parent. Effective communication is the number one most important factor in maintaining healthy relationships. Unfortunately, verbal communication is not generally a man’s strong suit.

• Let The Kids See Their Bio Parents. Your children did not ask for this situation, so do not hurt them any more than they already are by not allowing them to see their biological parent. In addition, do not “punish” your ex by withholding their children from them.

• Keep It Business-like. A healthy co-parenting relationship looks like a business relationship. Do not bring emotions into it. Do what is best for your kids…always!

5 Conversations You Can Have With her Late at Night

When you are in a relationship with someone, the most special times you spend with them are usually the times when the two of you are alone and in peace. My partner believes that there is no better time to talk peacefully than the night time because that is when we can be alone is peace, away from all the disturbances and distractions. However, there aren’t a lot of topics that you can think of every night so here are some conversations that the two of you can have late at night:

5. Stories from the past

When you two are randomly talking late at night, stories from the past are always an interesting thing to talk about. You are left so tired late at night after the entire day that you have an increased tendency to be extremely honest. Tell them about how your first crush broke your heart or how you lost an important football game as child. Talk about how you failed at the debating trials or how you were bullied in college. These things open the road for more understanding because then it is easier to know what affects them and how. 
 

4. Life lessons

I believe that a human being is shaped by all the experiences that they go through in life. Our lessons make us stronger and make us better/worse people. Thy shape our lives and teach us to be prepared for all situations in life. When you are in a relationship, it is best that your partners knows exactly what you are. When you share your experiences and lessons in life, you tell them about how you are this person today that you are and it makes them more understanding of you. These conversations also help you be more compassionate towards each other and help each other in times of need. 

3. Philosophy

It has become much of a trend these days and people talk a lot about having “deep” conversations. Late at night, when everything around you in peaceful, you got to think about things that surround you. You think about your religion and spiritual beliefs. You think about how the universe works around you and a lot of people claim that this thinking is the reason for their insomnia. The best way to cure all of this and put yourself at peace while spending some quality time with your partner, is by sharing all that you feel. No matter how weird, random or embarrassing your thoughts are, share them because your thoughts make you the individual that you are and your partner should know. 

2. Texting games

Texting games are always a fun thing to do late at night. When my partner and I are bored at night and we are not in a mood for a lot of talking, we play games over texts. We have these few games that we play every time and we found out about them over the internet. One of them involves taking names of three people we know of the opposite gender. We give each other the option to kill, kiss and marry any one of them. It is always challenging and fun. The other is called “Would you rather?” That involves giving each other two situations and asking for a choice. 

1. Naughty

If you are looking for some other kind of fun then you can always resort to this. Late at night, our emotions are always at a high. So you use them, even if you are not together. Text naughty things and ask random random questions. This basically depends on how close the two of you are so suggesting anything here could turn out to be inappropriate for the two of you.


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How to know your friends (MUST READ)

No human being can do without friends. We all need people to talk to, who know and understand us better, and whom we can understand well. There are various conceptions today about friendship and the concept itself is broad. Some people consider a friend to be someone who helps them. Others define a friend as someone they are attracted to, whose company they enjoy and with whom they do things together. 

 

Dictionary.com defines a friend as a “person attached to another by affection or regard.” In practical terms however, how do you know whether someone is your friend or you are someone’s friend?
Your friend is someone who knows you. This knowledge is beyond statistics about you such as name, sex and age. Your friend knows you much better than that. He/she knows your likes and dislikes. They can read your mood and tell when you are not happy. They know your past and present, and your hopes for the future.


Your friend is also someone whom you know in the manner described above.
Your friend is someone who trusts you, and whom you trust. Because they know you, your friends understand what you can do. They understand your values and can almost always tell how you will respond to a particular situation. They trust you and do not doubt what you tell them. They believe you mean well and so have confidence that you will not hurt them or deceive them.


Your friend defends your interest. He protects your interest. While growing up as a child, we played with our peers, and sometimes there was a contention involving your friend and someone else. If we were called in to testify, we usually would not say anything until we understood our friend’s interest and how we could protect it.


Your friend keeps your secrets and does not leak them to others. Some of those secrets could be fears or weaknesses. Your friend does not leak them to the public thereby disgracing or embarrassing you.

Your friend shares your feelings. They are able to see your tears, hear your cry and share your pain. They do not look unconcerned when you are in difficulty. Neither do they envy your successes. Instead, they rejoice with you genuinely.


Your friend shares your interests. He protects them most of the time because they are also his interests. The interests could be likes, dislikes, opinions or beliefs. They could also be business, religious, political or health interests. For instance, if I am a politician, my friend is likely to share my political views. Most times therefore, your friend thinks along the same line as yourself.

Types of Friends

Going by what they do together and how they relate to one another, friends can be classified in various ways.

• Political Friends: Friends in this category are held together by political interests. They may not agree on many other issues, but when it comes to politics, they work together and trust each other. 
•  Business Friends: These ones are linked by business interests. They may not necessarily agree on other issues like religion or politics, but they enjoy doing business together.

• Casual Friends: They could be held together by any kind of interests, but the striking feature is that their friendship does not last long or go beyond those interests. They may not know much about each other or even trust each other on other issues.

• Intimate Friends: Friends are usually brought together by an interest, but once the union is formed, they discover more and more reasons to remain together. Sometimes emotions are freely shared and lasting attachment is developed. They can therefore become intimate.

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7 ways to have a great relationship with yourself

There are sometimes in life you lose yourself, become quiet and withdrawn from the rest of the world, you are also likely to be less optimistic and depressed.

  

There's no need to panic when it happens because it's almost a natural occurrence but it can be fought when you have a relationship with yourself.

Relationships are not perfect but it is important to have a wonderful relationship with yourself because you are the one you spend most of your time with.

Inspired by Lifehack, here are 7 ways to have a great relationship with yourself

1. Laughing

Laughter improves your mood and your overall outlook about life and makes you a better person.

 

2. Take down a list of things you are grateful for

Every week, sit down and write a list of things you are thankful for. Most times we get depressed because we fail to see how lucky we are. Write everything good that has happened to you even the irrelevant ones and you'll see you'll begin to feel good.

3. Do one little thing that'll make you happy everyday

It doesn't matter how absurd it may be, just do it. To be happier, just look forward to doing it first, anticipate then you'll surprised at how well you'll enjoy that activity of yours.

 

4. Spend time with like-minded people

Spending time with people who have similar interests as you, will greatly improve your mood. You are bound to fall in-love with how unique you are by spending time with these kinds of people.

5. Begin a new hobby

Remember that skill you've always wanted to learn? You should start now, it'll help you boost your self-esteem and self-worth.

6. Always say positive things about yourself

Words like "I'm stupid' or 'I'm not good enough' should be crossed off your vocabulary. Keep saying good things about yourself then you'll feel your mind and later your body adjusting to what you constantly profess.

7. Treat yourself to a date

Date yourself, put on your favorite outfit and just take yourself out on a date. Walk or take a long fulfilling ride, just make it all about you.

7 Reasons Why Nigerian Men Marry Late

The Right One
This perhaps is one of the commonest reasons Nigerian men put off marriage till late in in their lives. Quite a number of men get to explore a bit and during the process of exploration get disorientated with women. Some get to see Nigerian women only in the light of what they want to obtain from them while others seem to see them as a means to an end. This generally affects their psyche which in turn leads them to have an undue fear of marriage.

Moreover, some are scared of ending up with the wrong woman or one that will be financially exploitative. As such, they will want to scrutinise as many choices as possible.

Dowry
Everyone knows how expensive the traditional African dowry system can be. This is one reason a lot of brothers would rather stay off marriage till they can hold their own financially. Some parts of Nigeria take as much as a million Naira as dowry payments. This is excluding sundry expenses that a man is expected to cover during the wedding ceremonies. To gather enough money to pay the dowry of the woman you love in this part of the world may mean you have to hold a stable job that pays well for a couple of years.

Dream Wedding
Believe it or not, Nigerian men also have an idea of what they want their wedding ceremonies to be like. There’s always so much hype from family and relatives that we see our wedding in the worst possible way.

Because we want every inch of our wedding ceremony and our married life to be perfect; as such, we take as much time as we can to ensure our dreams come true.

We Love The Single Life
Going out with your guys to have Nkwobi and bottles of cold beer at night reduces once you trade your single life for marriage. Men are practically scared of the loneliness that comes with having to change their routine all because they are stuck with a woman for the rest of their lives. A lot of Nigerian men tend to hold off tying the knot simply because they don’t want to give up on the ‘good life’ of hanging out with their hommies even though this increases the chances of them missing out on someone special down the road.

Resisting Pressure
Nigerian men stay off marriage as a subtle way of protesting and resisting Pressure from people who constantly remind them that they should be married at a certain age. The ultimatum that comes from a partner or parents adds undue pressure and we tend to intentionally go against the threat in an attempt to see what consequences would come with doing so. In all honesty, we get a bit confused when we are under undue pressure and would rather put off marriage till when we are completely certain than to admit later on that we would rather not have walked down the aisle.

Financial Constraints
This perhaps is the biggest reason while a lot of guys would rather put off marriage till when they are in their mid thirties. The economic situation is not friendly enough to embark on that tortuous journey where the man is expected to shoulder majority of the family’s responsibilities. From the high cost of baby food to the ever sky rocketing school fees, Nigerian men want some form of financial stability before even considering marriage. And who would blame us for this?

More S3x!
It’s quite the opposite for the strictly religious folks but the non-religious Nigerian men put off marriage as a means of not getting stuck with one woman. In truth, a lot of Nigerian men pride themselves in how much they’ve been able to explore different women and various sexual activities. Some tend to enjoy these activities so much that they would rather put off marrying till late. This is because marriage will limit their ability to be with different women. As a matter of fact, some men enjoy this life way into their 40’s before they decide to settle in for marriage.
Getting married is a reason to celebrate and everyone holds themselves a duty to marry for the right reasons. Irrespective of your reason for putting marriage off, you should derive happiness from your decisions. Take as much time as you care for and remember not to commit for the wrong reasons.

6 things every girl needs from her father

Fathers play a huge role in the lives of their daughters doesn't matter if it's negative or positive. A father's attitude to his daughter determines how she'll treat herself and get treated by other men who come her way.

Young girls look up to their dads as role models which is why fathers in turn need to focus on finding ways to to make their lives fulfilled.

Inspired by Beliefnet, here are 6 things every girl needs from her father.

1. Unconditional love: She needs to be a daddy's girl which means getting her father's unconditional love. She'd be able to relate well with the menfolk positively when she knows she's deeply loved by her father.

2. Saying the truth always: Fathers needs to always tell their daughters the truth about everything as they grow older, from life in general to relationships. So the world doesn't sell funny ideas into her head.

3. Being open and transparent: Fathers who show their vulnerable side to their daughters are helping them a great deal.

4. Consistency: A girl needs consistency from her father which means he has to practice this trait especially when she's transitioning from adolescence into a young woman.

5. Gaining respect: A father needs his daughter's respect which is more important if he plans to instill some virtues in her that'll last a lifetime.

6. Encouragement: Girls need to be recognised and encouraged by their fathers. They are encouraged to have a healthy competition with other girls which will help her build a much needed self-esteem.

5 easy ways couples can communicate effectively with each other

Sometimes in marriage, level of communication between couples dwindle and it gets harder to express your feelings towards each other, because you don't talk everyday.

Instead of waiting for the worst thing that could happen in your marriage, you can work towards taking it back to the way it once was.

Life gets busy especially with kids, jobs and extended family but you can work together as a couple to get your marriage back on track.

Inspired by Marriage.com, here are 5 easy ways couples can communicate effectively with each other.

1. Communicate with love, admiration and respect: Talk with your spouse rather than talking down on them or at them.

2. Go away together: Sometimes, it's okay to just leave everything behind and just have some time alone with yourselves, no distractions.

3. Communication should be mixed with fun and laughter: Life is not about being serious all the time. Make your conversations very enjoyable then you can proceed to saying about your issues.

4. Remember why you got married: Focus on what you love and cherish about each other, this should be motivating enough.

5. Create time to talk: Scheduling a talk time between you  and your spouse. Look forward to it each day and watch your level of communication get better.

GOOD LUCK

6 Advices Every Woman in a Relationship Must Know

I believe that women are beautiful. They go through a lot in life and yet they are still always compromising and always trying to facilitate others. Some men complain that women are confused and complicated, but I personally think that such men do not deserve women at all. If you are a woman, and you are in a relationship, here a few advices that you must know:

6. Give him a chance to talk.

Most men have temper issues, but you must know that most of them cannot stay angry for long. Some people get angry a lot, but that anger gets flushed down very easily. Also, it indicates that the other person is honest, and instead of keeping grudges, they express. You must know that if your boyfriend gets angry, you need to give him a chance to talk. Hear him out. Hear out what he has to say and let him express himself completely. Once he is done talking, his anger would abate, and he will be ready to hear you out. 

5. Do not bring him down.

Do you know that the worst way to bring down a person is by bringing up their past? Someone’s past is their collection of mistakes, experiences and a few failed relationships. If you keep bringing it up, you remind the other person of how he hasn’t really done much in life. If you’re mad at him, and you think that you have to scream at them, do not bring up the past. Always check their comfort level with it. For some men, it is easier to talk about their past with a woman who they trust a lot and have been together with for a while. 

4. Do not force him to talk.

There are a very few examples of talkative men. Men do not enjoy talking a lot. However, don’t assume that they do not want to talk to you or that they are not interested in you anymore. This is something I learnt from Grey’s Anatomy. Most of the times, they just don’t know what to say so they stay quiet instead. It would be rather annoying if you would push them to talk. 

3. The silent treatment.

As a woman, let me be very honest with you: this is my favourite. When they have done something that you dislike, you must know that screaming and shouting is not the right way to go about. Give him the silent treatment. Stop talking to him. Make a face, and he will soon realize that something is wrong. They will come to you and then you can make them realize their mistake. This avoids excessive drama because for some relationships, fights are a nasty affair. 

2. Motivate him.

Men like to appear self-sufficient. They do not want anyone to know of their weaknesses. However, you must know that deep down in their heart, they are scared too. They are scared of failing and losing people just as much as you are. As a result, motivate him. Show him that you trust him, and you know his full potential. Convince him that you are sure that he is capable of doing wonders. Believe me, this will boost his morale so much more. 

1. Do not suffocate him.

When you are with a guy, do not make him feel that you are a liability. You have to give him space. You have to let him have his guy time. You do not have to fuss about how he is with his friends this weekend, and you have to be alone. Do not be alone. Spend some time with your friends as well. He deserves his space, and so do you.

9 Signs You’re in very Bad Relationship (MUST READ)

Being in a relationship means being with someone who loves you and cares for you. You might not need materialistic expression of that in form of gifts and dinners but the support always keeps a person going. However, if you are in a bad relationship, there is no benefit in that. Here are 9 signs of a relationship that is bringing you down:

9. No space.

He is suffocating you by constantly standing on your head. You cannot go out with your friends, you cannot be without him and you’ve to report to him for whatever you do. If you don’t have space, you will get sick of him sooner or later. So you might rethink what do you want to do in future.

8. You have lost your identity.

You have been fulfilling his demands for so long that you have forgotten that you are a person too. You cannot even change an apartment without his consent because it might be far away from his place. You can’t follow your dreams and ambitions because it is getting in the way of his dreams and goals.

7. You’re always tired.

Whether it is the love or the general chores, you are constantly being exhausted. There has come a point when you feel that you are no longer a person but a giving machine. You don’t deserve that. Cut yourself some slack and either share the responsibilities or leave him.

6. You doubt you’re both compatible.

You feel like you both are not even compatible. Your ideas don’t match or you both can’t seem to agree on most of the things. The constant fights and arguments are not what makes a relationship special. If you both are not compatible then there is no point of a relationship at all.

5. You are constantly asking yourself if you want this.

Do you want to stay committed now? Or you in for a long-term relationship? Do you realise that you will eventually get married and have children? If these questions are scaring you off then don’t waste the other person’s time. Don’t just flirt and pass time. Let them go.

4. You both have different priorities.

If you both have different priorities then it is possible that your relationship will not work out. You might have started realizing this by now. Understand that no matter how much you love each other, a lot of compromises will eventually break you both apart.

3. It doesn’t feel like love.

There are two things that can bring someone into a relationship. It can either be lust or love. Understand that. If the other person is in just to satisfy his needs then he can go and find a hooker. You don’t have to compromise on that.

2. The spark is gone.

It feels like you guys are an old married couple instead of young people in love. Things have become in such a way that you guys don’t even feel like a young couple among your friends. A young person in love is fresh, happy and over the moon. There’s this constant spark in your eyes. If your life is as dull as it always was, reassess!

1. You enjoy more with other people.

He is just boring. Nothing he does is fun. If his idea of fun is the Super Sunday Barclays Premier League game and you have zero interest in football, then don’t just with him and watch the game. If he cannot do the things you like with him and imposes his ideas on you, it’s time to part way.
Remember, there is no point in suffering out of the fear of unknown! Stay happy and spread happiness.

Best Happy Birthday Message, Special Happy Birthday Text To Friends And Loved Ones

Here is a collection of our happy birthday messages which you can send to your friends, loved ones, boyfriend, girlfriend and more.
Please feel free to use them and do share using the share buttons at the end of the post.

*Birthday is the most special day in one’s life, enjoy it to the fullest.

*The sun is shining more brightly to wish you happy birthday.

*Wish you an outstanding and fabulous happy birthday.

*Happy birthday to the most beautiful person on the earth.

*Let your happy birthday be full of all the colors of the rainbow.

*Age hasn’t spoiled you. Happy Birthday.

*I hope that today is the beginning of a great year for you. Happy Birthday.

*A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are – even if you are getting older. Happy Birthday.

*A great friend and a happy birthday, that is what you are and what I wish for you.

*A happy birthday to a person who in dog years would already be dead.

*A lighter? We’re going to need a flamethrower to light up your candles.

*A true friend remembers your birthday but not your age. Happy Birthday.

*Age is a number, but life is the calculator.

*Another year has passed and as you celebrate your birthday this year and turn a year older. May you have all that you wish for come true. Have a happy birthday!

*Another year has passed but rather than count the years, let me just say how much we count on you. Happy Birthday.

*Another year older. Well at least we are growing up to be what we should be – the two hottest babes around. Happy Birthday Gorgeous.

*As King David said, May you prosper wherever you go and in whatever you do. Happy Birthday.

*Being young is a privilege. Being attractive a genetic gift. Being cool, that is all you. Happy Birthday.

*Best birthday wishes ever, yeah that is my birthday wish for you.

*Best wishes for a happy day filled with love and laughter. Happy Birthday.

*Birthday greeting, birthday greeting, generic birthday greeting. Sorry but that was all I could afford.

*Birthdays are special occasions and they call for special celebrations. Let us celebrate you birthday today!

*Birthdays come and go, so you need to Go Go Go. Happy Birthday.

*Blowing out another candle should mean that you have enjoyed another year and made the world a better place than when you blew out fewer candles. Make every day and every candle count. Happy Birthday.

*Celebrate your birthday today. Celebrate being Happy every day.

*Celebrate your birthday, go have lots of fun, everybody should enjoy it and have tons of fun. Happy Birthday.

*Congratulations on being even more experienced. I’m not sure what you learned this year but I hope that you had fun. Happy Bday.

*Do you know what people in China do on their birthday? They get older too. Happy Birthday.

*Do you want to look back in life and think about what a great life you’ve had? Then you better start working towards it right away! Happy Birthday!

*Don’t count the years, count the wishes and all the cheers.

*Don’t look for a heaven in the sky, try making one here.

*For all the advances in medicine, there is still no cure for the common birthday.

*For your birthday, I just want to say; I hope you can see, how special you are to me. Happy birthday my love!

*Forever young and good-looking. That’s all i wish you for.

*Forget how long you’ve lived. Look at how much you’ve accomplished until now and how far you’ve got to go. Happy Birthday!

*Friends may come and go, but birthdays accumulate.

*Get up. Stand up. Stand up for your birthday fun.

*Good things happen when you just go for it. Happy Birthday.