5 Ways to Be a Good Husband

A lot of women complain how good husbands are a myth. Women always think that they are the ones who compromise and make effort in a marriage. Perhaps these generalizations affect the way people react to one another a lot. To make sure you wife doesn’t say this, a few practical steps can be taken. You do not have to shower her with rose petals every morning or give her massages to make sure she says that. Just do a few of the following, and watch the magic:

5. Give her a love session every day.

This is perhaps my secret way to maintain a healthy relationship. No matter how busy or occupied the two of you are, take out at least 15-20 minutes for each other every day. It could be any time of the day. I prefer it before sleeping though. Spend time with your wife. Give her all your attention. Talk to her, hear about her day and pamper her. When she goes to sleep happy, she will have an even better day in the morning. 

4. Let go of fights and arguments.

My father used to say that if a married couple tell you that they do not fight, they are lying. When two people are together, it is impossible for them to stay so without disagreeing over something. There are always conflicts and arguments. This does not mean that the two people keep fighting and screaming at each other all the time. However, a normal level of fights are okay as long as you let go of them. Do not keep grudges in your heart and do not say hurtful things to each other while you are angry. This makes you a good husband and keeps the marriage healthy. 

3. Do not bring your work matters to home.

Some men carry all their work load home. They consider it an obligation to remind their wives of the hard work they do all day long. Along with that, the bad moods that come with the work, such as issues with other colleagues or the bosses, come back home too. To be a good husband, keep a check on that. When you come back home, come in a good mood. Even if you are mad, put that face aside. You can rant to your wife later, but when she hasn’t seen you the whole day, she wants to see you with smile at least. 

2. Pay attention to her issues.

Whether she stays at home or goes to work, you have to listen to her. She wants to tell you about her day. She wants to discuss her activities with you. Most men tend to assume that if she is a house wife, she will not have anything interesting to say. They get annoyed at their milkman or laundry stories. A good husband will not care about whether his wife was at an interesting warzone, or at home – he will just want to hear her out to make her feel wanted. 

1. Give her an equal share of the house affairs.

Some men tend to divide the house affairs assuming that the cleanliness affairs go to her while the finances stay with him. If you want to be a good husband, keep her informed of all the matters at home. Keep her informed about how you are paying the bills, what are you saving and how are the other activities of the house carried out. Most women only know that they have to call their husbands during sanitation problems or when they need a carpenter, because the husband maintains such contacts. Do not force her to do such jobs – if she doesn’t want to – but at least keep her well informed about how these things work.