Let’s
face it, Nigerian women love compliments more the men do, and when they
are clocking 30 and above, the effect of the passage of time on them
becomes more visible. Due to the norm in Nigeria where women
over the age of 30 are considered “older women”, the single ones
especially tend to feel less attractive and conscious of their looks as
they no
longer feel the rush of being ‘hot’ singles. The married, on the other
hand, also battle with feelings of insecurity and also require a measure
of reassurance as regards how they look.
Giving
compliments is an easy way to make these breed of women feel better
about themselves, especially if they have a particularly endearing
quality that ensures their insecurities are not well founded. If you are
friends with, dating or married to a woman over 30, Jovago.com,
Africa’s No.1 online hotel booking site offers 5 best compliments to pay
her. Putting a smile on her face will definitely come back to you in
positive ways.
“You Are Gorgeous”
The
usually compliment would be telling the woman that she is beautiful,
but for a woman over 30, she has probably heard the word “beautiful” so
many times in her teens and 20’s, and now considers it random or
negligible. She may even see the compliment as something impersonal and
take no mind to it. The word gorgeous is definitely a lot more powerful than the word beautiful. Swapping
the word for “gorgeous”, however, makes her feel much more unique and
elegant. She believes you are not just complimenting her for her looks,
but you are also her personality and aura.
“You are so trendy”
Keeping
up with the trends and fashion is a struggle for most women over 30 in
Nigeria. They are at a point in their life where they start to realize
that they are no longer as particular about things as they used to be,
and the times are totally different. They start to harbor the secret
fear that they are no longer current and they no longer what is in
vogue. Some of them actually achieve fashionable looks anyways, while
some in their determination to be on par with the recent trends tend to
overdo it. While telling them they are trendy or fashionable sounds like
the most boring lines ever, it can be extremely effective when you say
it the right way. It tells her that her style attracted your attention because the way she dresses reveals her personality and her interest.
“You are so smart”
Nigerian
women over 30 like to feel powerful and they like to know that others
notice their achievements. Telling her she is smart is a good way to
make her feel empowered and most importantly feel good about herself. It
reveals to her that there is more to her that people notice and her
body or beauty looks may not be a pivotal as she is afraid it might be.
Also, in the case of the compliment coming from a boyfriend or husband,
it tells
her that you respect and appreciate her for the fact that she is more
intelligent than the average girl, so, there is less chance of you
cheating on her with the pretty or younger faces.
“I feel like I can talk about everything with you”
This is one
of the best compliments to pay a Nigerian woman over 30 as it
communicates trust, appreciation and love at the same time. At their
stage, they are very curious and tend to need a lot of assurance. They
like to know that they are important to you enough that you want to
confide in her and share your secrets. It also tells her that you
appreciate her for the conversations and you have love the time you
spend with her. Basically, it tells her that she’s still got it.
| Ndem Nkem | |
| Travel/Tech Writer Jovago Nigeria | |
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