It is unfortunate that divorce can most times bring out the worst in us. The biggest obstacles to successful co-parenting are emotions like anger, resentment, and jealousy.
Those kinds of emotions make the challenge of co-parenting with your ex more difficult. However, your children still need their mother and their father—whether they still live together or not. Here are five things to remember to help you successfully co-parent together.
- It Is Not About You: It is about your kids. If the adults involved just remember that it is about the kids, there would not be near as many challenges. Commit to putting your children’s well-being ahead of any issues you may have with your ex. It takes maturity and dedication to let go of past wounds and bitterness, but it will make a difficult situation much easier.
- Always Treat The Other Parent With Respect. No matter how difficult this may be, it is imperative you treat your children’s mother/father with respect—regardless of how they treat you. Not only does this help keep a civil relationship between you and your ex, it is also in the best interests of your children.
- Keep Lines of Communication Open With Co-parent. Effective communication is the number one most important factor in maintaining healthy relationships. Unfortunately, verbal communication is not generally a man’s strong suit.
- Let The Kids See Their Bio Parents. Your children did not ask for this situation, so do not hurt them any more than they already are by not allowing them to see their biological parent. In addition, do not “punish” your ex by withholding their children from them.
- Keep It Business-like. A healthy co-parenting relationship looks like a business relationship. Do not bring emotions into it. Do what is best for your kids…always!
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