Why You Should Put Your Spouse Ahead Of Your Parents...

There are a lot of reasons why your family should
come first in your life especially your parents and
siblings. You however get to a point where you have
to reconsider that stance. The moment you fall in
love and decide to spend the rest of your life with
someone, people on your priority scale begin to
change.
From that moment, you and your spouse have to be
first on each other’s priority scale but this is not
to say you should abandon your parents, it simply
means your spouse has become top priority. If
you’re wondering why your spouse should come
first, here are five reasons why.

-It Shows You Respect Your Spouse
When you partner is top on your priority list, it
helps to build a strong bond between you two. If
you have a spouse that continually runs to their
parents or siblings for advice instead of first
talking to their partner, chances of distrusting
them would arise. Talking about your problems
together as a couple can help to create a united
solution which in turn strengthens your
relationship. When you talk together as a couple
about your problems and seek answers in a united
way, it strengthens your marriage. Parents this is
not to say advice can’t be sought from family; if
so, such should be done when your partner is
present. Overall, running to your family shouldn’t
be the first point of call.

-It’s Indicative Of a Strong Relationship
When you put your spouse first, you are bound to
have a strong relationship as opposed to when
others come first. Putting others ahead of a
spouse would make your spouse feel useless and
insecure which is bound to create more problems
for the relationship. When you put your spouse
first, your family and your spouse will recognize
how important your relationship is to you.

-It Helps Create Intimacy With Your Spouse
When you put your partner first, there’s a huge
chance that the both of you can understand and
meet each others needs. Sharing your thoughts and
experiences with your spouse can help develop
intimacy that would open more romantic doors. It
is however hard to achieve intimacy if you don’t
feel like the numero uno in your partner’s life.
When your family has that number one spot, there
is a chance that this would be difficult to achieve.
It is important you maintain a level of closeness to
your parents but avoid the pothole of letting it
jeopardize your marriage.
You Know They Would Be There When Things Get
Tough
When your partner is on the top of your priority
list, their loyalty is assured. You’ve kept each
other at the top of the list, there will be no
question about loyalty to and from your spouse.
Things are bound to get tough at some point in time
and knowing that your spouse would be there for
you irrespective of what happens is comforting to
say the least. When you and your partner keep
each other at the top of one another’s priority
list, you are subconsciously assured that you will
both be there for each other through the hard
times. Love and support from family is also
important to have but at the end of the day, it is
your partner that would be by your side for life.
When Everyone Leaves, Your Spouse Would Be The
Person Left
Another reason to have your spouse as number one
in your life is that your they can help to make the
pain of losing a family member less painful. If you
keep a proper balance between loving your parents
and spouse, you’re bound to have sweeter
memories when your parents go to the great
beyond just as you’d have a stronger relationship
through it all.

       It is however important to not push away your
family but find a formula which incorporates them
and your spouse. Maintaining a closely knit
relationship with your family can have an effect on
your relationship with your spouse. A relationship
that keeps everyone happy can be built with your
spouse still retaining the top spot in your life.

Guys!!! Tips on How to kiss...

Every woman yearns for the man who can set her
innards on fire with his mouth moves. When
embarking on a romantic journey, the man who
knows how to kiss a woman perfectly always has a
honeypot to tap from.
This skill can determine how bright the flame in the
affair will burn or keep burning. No woman wants
to be with a man whose kiss skill is zero, unless you
have something to compensate with.
It is very important for a man to know how to kiss
a woman perfectly because it appeases the gods of
emotional matters and offers you the grand prize
on a platter. A woman is always a “maga” to any
man whose kiss game is on point. Truly, very few
men are blessed with power to create an orgasmic
feeling in a woman by just flicking his tongues and
nibbling on her lips.
Women are naturally attracted to neat guys so any
man who wants to get some should clean up, esp his
breathe. Dude if you must kiss her, please smell
right.
Over time, kisses in a relationship can get boring
after the first, second and every other kiss that
follows. In order to make sure that the kiss never
loses its spark, the first time and every other time
should be perfect.

Start the kiss by holding her face with both palms
while leaning in with your lips parted. Tilt her head
slightly to the side to avoid heads butting and
noses bumping.
Lick your lips while peering into her eyes with that
“I want to **** you right here, right now” kinda
look. Instruct her to follow your lead, you’re the
teacher, she is the pupil. Women are turned on by
men who know how to lead.
Pick her lower lip with your teeth. Don’t bite,
nibble. While nibbling, suck it all in. Keep sucking on
the entire lower lip while moving your wild tongue
from one side of the mouth to the other. Don’t
touch the upper lip just yet.
With one hand on her face, take the other hand and
caress her shoulder blades while commanding her to
open her mouth. Dive in and lick on her tongue till
shes about to choke, call out her name and pull out
of her mouth slowly while settling on the upper lip.
Don’t stop nibbling.
You have set the pace and she is ready to follow.
Take her tongue and give her yours. Give feathery
kisses all over her face and chew on her chin.
Freely instruct her if she doesn’t know what to do
or can’t keep up with your pace. Remember the
perfect kiss is always sensual like two lips making
love not rough and hard like you’re avenging the
lips.

The magic in how to kiss a woman perfectly is to
ensure the lips stays wet. No woman wants chappy
or dry lips on hers. So freely wet your lips, not
salivate. There’s a difference. Pretend you are
licking ice cream on cone and not eating a peppery
meal that keeps your mouth salivating like a dog.
The kiss should be warm, passionate and leave both
parties eager to take the lips to more sensual
parts of the body.

Happy kissing.

Guess who won project fame west Africa season 8???

Jeffrey Akoh has emerged as the 2015 MTN Project
Fame winner. The 18 year old beat 5 other finalists
to emerge the winner of the 8th season of MTN
Project Fame.
Jeff is a Sound Engineering graduate from the SAE
Institute, Cape Town and has consistently wowed
judges and the audience by going all the way in
each of his performances.
  
He joins the likes of
Iyanya, iMike, Ayoola, Chidinma, Monica, Olawale
and Geoffrey as a Project Fame superstar.
       Jeffrey Emerges 2015 MTN Project Fame Winner
Third runner up in the competition was Ada, with
second runner up being Anderson and Pearl being
the first runner up...

What do you think?

Sepp Blatter & Michel Platini investigated by ethics committee :FIFA

Fifa president Sepp Blatter and European football chief
Michel Platini are facing an investigation by Fifa's ethics
committee.

The move comes after the Swiss attorney general opened
criminal proceedings against Blatter, 79.
He is accused of signing a contract "unfavourable" to
football's governing body and making a "disloyal payment"
to Uefa president Platini, 60.
Blatter denies wrongdoing and his lawyer says he is co-
operating fully.
     The ethics committee is looking into the circumstances of a
payment of two million Swiss francs (£1.35m) that Platini
received in 2011 for work said to have been carried out
more than nine years previously, reported the Press
Association.
      Swiss prosecutors opened criminal proceedings against
Blatter on Friday.
Platini - who worked as Blatter's technical advisor between
1999 and 2002 - was interviewed as a witness by officers
from the attorney general's office.
     The Frenchman is yet to explain the nine-year delay in
payment but he too denies any wrongdoing.

Russia and Estonia 'exchange spies' after Kohver row

Russia and Estonia have exchanged two convicted spies
over a bridge separating the countries.
Estonian security official Eston Kohver was sentenced to
15 years in a Russian jail last month.
   He was swapped for Aleksei Dressen, who was imprisoned in
Estonia in 2012 on charges of spying for Moscow.
Kohver's case provoked a diplomatic row, with Estonia and
the EU insisting he was abducted from Estonian soil, a
charge Russia denied.
Dressen was a former officer in Estonia's security police,
who was found guilty of passing secret data to Russia for
years after Estonia's independence in 1991.
     He had been arrested in 2012 along with his wife, Victoria
Dressen, who was given a suspended sentence.
According to the Russian Federal Security Service, the
swap took place on a bridge over the Piusa River that
separates Russia's western Pskov region and Estonia's
Polva county.
    The exchange came after "long-term negotiations", the
head of Estonia's Internal Security Service, Arnold Sinisalu
said at a televised news conference, sitting alongside
Kohver.
     The Estonian agent said he was glad to be back home and
thanked "all the authorities who helped me get back to
Estonia, who helped me to, so to say, endure in prison".
Relations between Russia and its Baltic neighbours have
been uneasy since they joined Nato and the European Union
in 2004.
     They have worsened since the crisis in Ukraine, where
Russia is accused of arming separatists in the east - which
Moscow denies.

Pope's key messages for US Congress

Pope Francis has told the US Congress that the US must

see migrants not as "numbers", rather as "persons".

Speaking to a rare joint session, the Pope said immigrants
should be treated "with the same passion and compassion
with which we want to be treated".
In the same address, the pontiff renewed his call for
ending the death penalty, and for better treatment of the
poor and disadvantaged.

The man who Motivated and inspired Charles Darwin

Most people have never heard of Charles Waterton, but
the conservation pioneer is credited with both inspiring
Charles Darwin to travel to South America (where the
famous naturalist would later develop his theory of
evolution) and constructing the world's first nature
preserve – a move that radically shifted 19th Century
attitudes when animals were more often feared and
exploited.
In light of recent debates between conservationists,
hunters and the general public on how to best preserve
and protect dwindling animal populations, I stopped by
Waterton Lakes National Park (WLNP) in Alberta, Canada,
where the conservationist’s namesake park is battling
with a bear population that’s encroaching upon nearby
towns, farms and ranches. Nearly 150 years after his
death – and 10 years after grizzly bear hunts were
suspended in WLNP – I wanted to see if Waterton's
philosophies of protecting all animals – even those that
are feared or seen as less useful – still worked in a place
where the wildlife has gotten too populous for the
protected area.
The largest of the three Waterton Lakes straddles the
Canada-US border, meaning you can wake up in Alberta,
hike into Montana and be back in Canada for supper. WLNP
isn't as famous or often visited as Banff , Canada's oldest
national park just 380km to the south, but those who
know it love it with an affection usually reserved for
hometown sport teams. Its two biggest draws are
wildflowers – more than 1,000 vascular plant species
grow here – and the bears.
At just 505sqkm, WLNP is the smallest of Canada's Rocky
Mountain parks. Yet it’s home to between 40 and 80 black
bears – far more than the park's ecosystem can support.
Canadian researcher Andrea Morehouse also found hair
samples from 177 individual grizzlies (a North American
subspecies of the brown bear) in the park and its
surrounding areas. As a result, the animals have been
seen venturing onto the plains where food is more
abundant. In 2014, the Fish and Wildlife Enforcement
Branch for Pincher Creek District – the area bordering the
north end of WLNP – recorded 52 incidents with grizzly
bears, including 17 proven livestock kills, two animals
injured and 21 instances of human conflict.
Visitors to the park are advised to carry with them a
canister of bear spray – pressurised pepper spray that
can convince even the most stubborn of bears to leave you
alone. But some children living near the national park
even carry bear spray to school, because walking from
their front door to the school bus stop might mean
negotiating a grizzly.
"Places I would have gone bareback riding as a kid, I
wouldn't send my kids there because there are bears,"
explained Jeff Bectell, a fourth-generation rancher and
president of the Waterton Biosphere Reserve Association,
an organisation that has developed a Carnivores and
Communities programme to tackle conflicts in
southwestern Alberta.
Parks Canada human wildlife contact specialist Jon
Stuart-Smith has seen a shift towards tolerance of
predators. “Even up to the 1940s, park employees were
encouraged to destroy predators to keep ‘good’ wildlife.
Now people come to the park to see predators,” he said.
To get a sense of how WLNP’s current strategies are
working, I met up with local rancher and bear expert,
Charlie Russell, who explained that bears are not
naturally violent towards people and that it’s possible to
live near these predators without fear. “A bear that likes
you won't hurt you, and I've tested that," he said.
I spotted my first bruin, a cinnamon-coloured black bear,
rummaging in long grass near the 14km Red Rock Parkway
that cuts through the park. Similar in colour to a grizzly,
it lacked the distinctive shoulder hump and dish-shaped
face of the bigger bears but seemed equally fond of the
protein-rich roots of yellow hedysarum and other
grassland plants. Later that evening I saw a darker-
coloured grizzly, lanky and slim like a teenager, slipping
down the boulders of a narrow riverbank and crossing
from one meadow to another.
While the prairie landscape gave me an unobstructed view
of the bears, it also gives the animals a clear view of their
food – not all of it grass. "In 18 years ranching next to
Waterton Lakes National Park, I didn't lose one cow to
bears, but I saw them killing cows on my neighbour's
property," Russell said.
To help farmers living near WLNP absorb the cost of living
with apex predators, the Alberta government compensates
for livestock killed by bears, although some farmers
complain it is too little or too hard to get. Currently
compensation comes from funds collected for hunting and
fishing licenses, although some ranchers have suggested
all Alberta taxpayers should contribute to the cost since
many of the bears seen in the national park live part of
their lives on the farms and ranches nearby.
I pondered my willingness to pay as I strolled through
Waterton town – and I stopped, puzzled, when I passed a
golf cart occupied by two border collies wearing reflective
orange vests. They sat quietly near a sign reading “Help
Keep the Wild in Wildlife”. "[The dogs] chase deer out of
town before they give birth because mama deer are very
aggressive,” a woman explained. The deer also attract
cougars, so keeping them away prevents another human-
wildlife conflict.
It seemed 150 years after his death, Charles Waterton's
philosophy of protecting predators was still in vogue, even
though his practice of putting fences around wildlife no
longer worked. Instead I saw humans and wildlife learning
to co-exist, with deer-herding dogs and bear-savvy
school children. People were building on the concepts of
Charles Waterton, protecting creatures for their own
value, while modifying them for a different era. And the
proof it was working was being able to watch a bear going
about his business without fear – on my part or the
bear’s.

HOW THE APOSTLES DIED

1. Matthew Suffered martyrdom in Ethiopia, Killed by a sword wound. 

2. Mark (not an apostle,but one of the first missionaries) Died in Alexandria, Egypt , after being dragged by Horses through the streets until he was dead. 

3. Luke ( not an apostle, but was Paul's doctor) Was hanged in Greece as a result of his tremendous Preaching to the lost.

 4. John Faced martyrdom when he was boiled in huge Basin of boiling oil during a wave of persecution In Rome. However, he was miraculously delivered From death. John was then sentenced to the mines on the prison Island of Patmos. He wrote his prophetic Book of Revelation on Patmos . The apostle John was later freed and returned to serve As Bishop of Edessa in modern Turkey . He died as an old man, the only apostle to die peacefully 

5. Peter He was crucified upside down on an x-shaped cross. According to church tradition it was because he told his tormentors that he felt unworthy to die In the same way that Jesus Christ had died. 

6. James The leader of the church in Jerusalem , was thrown over a hundred feet down from the southeast pinnacle of the Temple when he refused to deny his faith in Christ. When they discovered that he survived the fall, his enemies beat James to death with a fuller's club. * This was the same pinnacle where Satan had taken Jesus during the Temptation. 

 7. James the Son of Zebedee, was a fisherman by trade when Jesus Called him to a lifetime of ministry. As a strong leader of the church, James was ultimately beheaded at Jerusalem. The Roman officer who guarded James watched amazed as James defended his faith at his trial. Later, the officer Walked beside James to the place of execution. Overcome by conviction, he declared his new faith to the judge and Knelt beside James to accept beheading as a Christian.

 8. Bartholomew Also known as Nathaniel Was a missionary to Asia. He witnessed for our Lord in present day Turkey. Bartholomew was martyred for his preaching in Armenia where he was flayed to death by a whip.

 9. Andrew Was crucified on an x-shaped cross in Patras, Greece. After being whipped severely by seven soldiers they tied his body to the cross with cords to prolong his agony. His followers reported that, when he was led toward the cross, Andrew saluted it in these words: 'I have long desired and expected this happy hour. The cross has been consecrated by the body of Christ hanging on it.' He continued to preach to his tormentors For two days until he expired.

 10. Thomas Was stabbed with a spear in India during one of his missionary trips to establish the church in the Sub-continent.

 11. Jude Was killed with arrows when he refused to deny his faith in Christ.

 12. Matthias The apostle chosen to replace the traitor Judas Iscariot, was stoned and then beheaded.

 13. Paul Was tortured and then beheaded by the evil Emperor Nero at Rome in A.D. 67. Paul endured a lengthy imprisonment, which allowed him to write his many epistles to the churches he had formed throughout the Roman Empire. These letters, which taught many of the foundational Doctrines of Christianity, form a large portion of the New Testament.

 14. Simon the Zealot Simon was traditionally martyred by being sawn in half. 

15. Philip Philip evangelized in Phrygia where hostile Jews had him tortured and then crucified upside down. Some sources have him being stoned Perhaps this is a reminder to us that our sufferings here are indeed minor compared to the intense persecution and cold cruelty faced by the apostles and disciples during their times For the sake of the Faith. And ye shall be hated of all men for my name's sake: But he that endureth to the end shall be saved

. Pass on to encourage other Christians

Style Focus: Dj Spinall

Sodamola Oluseye Desmond is a DJ from Nigeria. He is popularly known as DJ SPINALL a.k.a TheCAP. He grew up in Lagos, born June 2nd as third child from a family of five.
Dj Spinall is the Official DJ for Channel O Africa, Wande Coal, Industry night and also official DJ for Beat FM Radio stations. He also has a deep working relationship with 2face Idibia, Sound Sultan, M.I, Ice Prince Zamani, Tiwa Savage, Wande Coal, Burna Boy, Sean Tizzle just to mention a few. He also has been on tour with different artist across the country at different times.

Dj Spinall added the traditional CAP (Fila) to his outfit tracing his roots back to the Yoruba race and culture. TheCAP which he tags as “The Crazy Azz Party” has since then been his identity and it has created huge trend among young socialites across the country.

I Want To Be An Icon In The Fashion Industry - Syrus Stitchez

Agomo Okem is an upcoming fashion designer known for his trendy styles in the Nigerian fashion industry. He developed his passion for fashion at a very young age and recently launched his fashion line ‘Syrus Stitchez’. In an interview Okem spoke on his journey so far.

On his background  
My name is Agomo Okem also know as Syrus. I was born on the 19th day of January, 1985. I am the second child out of four children. I was born and raised in Lagos. Spending most of my life in Lagos has helped me to learn both languages which are Yoruba and my native language which is igbo. I am a native of Nri-ukwu Amimo in Aboh Mbaise local government of Imo state. I did my university education at Lagos state University where I studied educational management.

 On his early days in fashion 
 I ventured into fashion at an early age. I can remember vividly when I was a little younger I used to make clothes for my sister’s dolls, which I always had fun doing. As I grew older, I began to sketch patterns to give my dad’s tailor to sew for me. Until one period there was a very long strike for months while I was in the university. I decided to enroll in a fashion school to build up my passion for making clothes. I got enrolled at Trend Vivi Fashion house where I was taught to make female clothes. While in school, I started developing more skills in men’s wear rather than the female wear I was taught. I would say I built most of my skills myself. I can also remember asking question from tailors around and also from professional designers when I had problems either cutting or sewing.

On his inspirations
 My fashion sense I would say is stylish, outstanding and modest. I love trying out colors and the use of floral prints. I always loved looking good when it comes to dressing which is part of the reason I ventured into fashion designing and tailoring. The errors I saw whenever I gave my fabric to my dad’s tailor when I was much younger inspired me to learn the art of fashion designing and tailoring. Also, the fashion sense of one of my mentors inspired me whenever I watched him on television acting. Some of my mentors are Jim Iyke, Uti Nwachukwu and Roberto Cavalli.

Aspirations
 I see myself as a top fashion icon people can reckon with and seeing my label ‘SyruStitches Clothing’ brand most Nigerians would be comfortable wearing. You all should expect more of my creative work and my own fashion show. I intend to push my career by attending more fashion shows both locally and internationally, learning more difficult styles and pattern and working with professionals in the business, and publicizing my works to the extent it will be worn by both the elite and the typical average person. But if I was not a fashion designer, i would have been as an educational administrator or a business man.

  Embarrassing moment 
 My most embarrassing moment was when I was so confident about some clothes I made. On getting to the clients place for testing and fitting, it tore as the client put it on. I felt very embarrassed.

  On the current state of the fashion industry
  Well, I believe Nigerians are yet to totally accept wearing Nigerian made clothes. But with the rise of good designers and tailors, I think the fashion industry would soon take a positive turn in the economy by providing employment . 

MUSIC: T-CROWN FT RAINBOW GOODS - TIRAKA (PROD.BY DANNYJOEBEATZ)

T_CROWN is one abuja fast rising artist whose work will in no speak for him,with debut single TIRAKA featuring RAINBOW GOODS .T_CROWN whose real
name is TUNDE MOJISLA ws born and raised in lagos. He moved to ABUJA a
few weeks ago and has already kick started his music career with this
major collaboration produced by ace producer, Danny_joe beat
So kindly put on your dancing shoes and thinking caps before bumping to this and save the
name too, ’cause T_CROWN is here to spice up your playlists with more hits!

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FASHION: Asoebi – Vol3

When picking asoebi, go for pop of colors, get creative with your color sense, people love vibrant colors and it makes your event even more glamorous; after all, the purpose of asoebi is to make the event colorful, exciting, and outstanding.

Consider colors that are daring, bold and do not be afraid of mixing colors, you will be surprised how magnificent they will turn out. Do something usual to be outstanding with your asoebi color codes.