5 ways to meet Mr Right in Lagos

A lot of female visitors who storm Lagos have romance at the back of their minds as they hope to meet the guy that would sweep them off their feet during their stay. Unfortunately, while single men are literally everywhere in the city, meeting quality single guys can be an arduous task. Everyone seems to be so busy, and the ones you manage to meet at bars and club may not exactly be what you would consider “quality”.

Truth is, finding eligible men in Lagos could be an elusive game if they are at a loss as to where to meet them. Jovago.com, Africa’s largest online hotel booking portal comes to the rescue with   top 5 ways girls in Lagos who are serious about taking their destiny can meet quality eligible men.

Get your blood pumping at the gym

If you have a gym in your hotel or a sport center around you, take advantage of it. Most of the men in Lagos are fitness conscious and they like to spend quality time at the gym. Basically, you would be killing two birds with one stone: you get to exercise your body, get your blood flowing, and also create opportunities to run into the love of your life!

Most of the men you will meet at the gym would be attractive and responsible as their presence at the gym already shows that they value their health. And do not forget to go for an attractive sports gear as opposed to the normal sweat pants and T-shirt.

Attend weddings

Anyone who lives in Lagos can attest to the fact that wedding are the number one place to meet single quality guys. Forget the lewd assumption that single men at weddings just want to get laid, if you keep that in mind, you will not make progress. Most of the men actually come to wedding to look out for the girls who rush out for the bouquet when the bride throws it to the crowd, that way they know they already stand a chance.

Do not deny any invitation to a wedding, especially when it is a friend or someone of good reputation. Just ensure you look great, keep a smile and look approachable, dance like your life depends on it, and of course, fight for that bouquet when you see it high up in the air.

Go to church

Rather than sit in your hotel room or place of accommodation on the Sunday while visiting, why not get up, get dressed and head out to church? You never know who you would meet and what better way to meet a quality single guy than coming across him in the presence of the lord? There is none better than a man who has high regard for God and stays committed to his religion. There is a higher chance of things working out with him, as most of the single men in church are in search of opportunities for serious relationships. The bonus is that you get to meet someone who shares the same faith and moral grounding as well. Luckily, there are a number of churches around Lagos that you visit.

Take a stroll at a private beach

Put meeting the perfect single guy on the side, visiting the private beaches or resorts in Lagos can be a rewarding experience on its own. From La Campagne Tropicana to  Kampe Ikare, Atican beach  or just Oniru beach, there are boundless opportunities to run into eligible men.

There are basically three kinds of guys you will see at the beach: those who are there alone, those with their group of male friend (their behavior will mark them out as single) and those who visit with their baes, girlfriends or wives. The first two are your best bet. Do not feel too shy to approach them and a strike up a conversation…most love stories begin with a few rods spoken.

Make your location visible online

A lot of people in Lagos meet their boyfriends and husbands online via social media apps like Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat Instamessage. In fact, this is the latest method of meeting single men in the city. Social media apps give users opportunities to find others with similar interests close to them. And so, unless your location is visible it might be difficult for guys in the area to see you and hit you up. Make your location visible the moment your feet touch the shores of Lagos and stay online.

If you do not have accounts on any of the social media platforms, search for online dating sites, there are some exclusive to Nigeria and even Lagos.  You can check out profiles and photographs and connect with whoever appeals to you.

Ndem Nkem

Travel/Tech Writer

“Go Back To Your Husband Immediately” – Nigerian Pastor Tells Tiwa Savage

Following the lingering marital crisis involving popular singer, Tiwa Savage and her husband, Tunji Balogun, a.k.a TeeBillz, lover boy “old school” singer-turned- pastor, Felix Aigbe Libarty has called out the couple to save themselves and the Nigerian music industry from further embarrassment by resolving their differences amicably.


Specifically, the “Ifeoma and 419” crooner, begged Tiwa Savage to return to her husband quietly despite the emotional pains she’s going through at the moment. He said:
TeeBillz is under serious attack from the pit of hell, and as such, Tiwa should not allow
the devil to use her husband to destroy her future.


Speaking further, he said:
“It’s one thing to be famous and it’s another to know how to manage fame. I want her (Tiwa Savage) to go back to her husband immediately because there is no divorce spiritually except when the man is no more. I want her to know that if God wants to announce any woman that is matured, He will always match her with a man. In this case, that is what God has done for her.”


“I want Tiwa Savage to begin to understand that whatever is happening to her now is an attack from the pit of hell. Her husband is in deep trouble. I am sure that his pastor has not been able to tell him that he’s under attack.

The devil may not attack you directly, it will attack your partner. Spiritually, as I am seeing it, her husband (TeeBillz) is under attack. Every behaviour her husband is exhibiting now is manipulated.

The Bible says, you have to be there for your husband, and your husband will be there for you. Whatever that is going on now, remains the fact that your husband is being manipulated by spiritual forces that doesn’t want you to grow. And by the time you walk out of your marriage, you are giving the devil the opportunity to destroy your life completely” he counselled.

5 Reasons why she is obsessed with Getting Married

Women rate the idea of marriage very highly. Ask any girl around and she will say that when she has found the right guy, she will want to get married to him as soon as possible. It is in the nature of most women to behave a certain way, and believe it or not, every woman has the natural tendency to settle with the right guy. That’s not all. There is more to it and here are a few reasons why she is obsessed with the idea of getting married:


5. Her parents want her to settle.
Getting married is one of the aims that every woman sets in her life. That is because all her life, her parents have fed this idea into her head. They want her to be with the right man for the rest of her life. Marriage is a bond and a promise to always be there for one another – ‘in sickness and in health’ and ‘for better or for worse’. They don’t want their daughter to be in temporary flukes that will eventually result in breakups and in breaking apart.

4.Everyone forces her to get married.
A woman knows that getting married is an important part of her life. This is because of the society pressure. It is something less common in the developed world, but the all the eastern countries cannot just emphasize enough on this. There, a woman can not just state that she doesn’t want to get married. A woman has to get married. She has to settle. She has no other option, and this is why, certain women are obsessed with this idea of getting married.

3.She has always wanted to be a bride
Now, let me talk about the soft side of a woman. I know am not a girl, but I know how things go. All their lives, when they see a woman rocking her wedding dress, they imagine being there in her place. They tend to melt on the idea of getting married. That’s just how women are! We are cheesy and obsessive, and I believe that this is what makes them beautiful and soft.

2.For the security.
Whether you like it or not, a marriage promises security. Be it emotional, mental, financial or physical security, women realize that getting married brings everything like this in her life. She realizes that she will need all these things at one point in her life. She doesn’t want to be alone and completely independent. The best way to strive in this world is not by being independent, but by being co-dependent, and that is what she wants to offer and gain from a marriage.


1. She wants to be a mother
Women are gifted a maternal instinct by God. Most women tend to be great with kids. They naturally want kids of their own and wanting a kid out of wedlock is always a risky job. There is no promise of that man staying with you. With marriage, there comes a little promise and emotional connection that he will stay there for you and for your child. For that, a woman always dreams about getting married and having the perfect husband around to raise her children with her.


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8 Signs He Is Madly In Love With You

He is just existing in your life: making you daydream, loving you and taking care of you. You cannot stop and wonder how you will respond if things are going to progress for you both. Well if you want to know if all this means that he is madly in love with you, here are a few signs for you.

 

8. He treats you like you’re a celebrity.

They say he is madly in love with you and he cares about you a lot if he brings out the best in you. That is because he sees the good in you and he makes sure that you know it. He tells you that you can move mountains and be the best because nobody understands your potential better than him, and he wants you to reach it.

7. It feels like a dream.

He is madly in love with you if your life suddenly feels like a dream or a page from a fairy tale – or both. He treats you like a queen, loves you and cares for you. He makes sure that he is there for you. He remembers the little details about you and he looks at you with love and respect in his eyes. He is the rock star in your life and he means the world to you.

6. He knows his priorities.

He is madly in love with you if he knows his priorities. He knows where to put you in his life and you can see it very often. He will ditch other people when he knows that you need him. You have never felt the need to remind him of your place in his life because he knows it. He knows your worth and if someone values you this much, never let go of them.

5. He accepts your rawest forms.

He is madly in love with you if he doesn’t care about the way you appear or sound. You can sound as obsessive as you want and you can wear whatever you want, yet he will still not care about it. All he cares about is you and your existence so all of this doesn’t even matter to him – not even one bit!
 

4. He trusts you.

He doesn’t question your intentions if a guy walks up to you to flirt or ask for your number. You’ve never seen him checking your phone or reading your texts. He hasn’t even checked your Facebook inbox in all this time. He is madly in love with you if he trusts you blindly because he knows that you will not leave him and neither will he. He’s a man – not an insecure boy.

3. He respects your family.

He is madly in love with you if he knows that your family is very important to him. He makes sure that he treats them with respect and care. He will be nice to your parents and he will act goofy around your little siblings. He will spend time with them if necessary. In short, you sometimes feel like they should make movies about him because he’s that perfect!

2. You have forgotten your past.

It feels like either the memory is gone or that thinking about any of your previous boyfriend(s) or crush(es) is not just worth it, anymore. If he is madly in love with you, he will make you forget all the wrong ones because his love has the power to do so. All those heartbreaks and tears seem crazy now.

1. He’s your sanity pill.

Women tend to be over-thinkers. They have to analyse and evaluate things excessively and obsessively. I tend to derive results and conclusions and end up upsetting myself. Yet with him around, I am reminded of how there is no need to do any of this. He keeps my thinking real and rational. He is madly in love with you if he does that to you.


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WHY YOU NEVER KEEP TO YOUR PROMISES (MUST READ)

Empty promises are just words that have no meaning and people who make them don't follow through.

 

Sometimes, we meet people who raise our hopes up and everything come crashing down later or we ourselves makes promises to people and don't come through with it.

There are several reasons people make empty promises and some of them may be surprising to you because they are things we can all relate with.

Inspired by All Women Stalk, here are 4 reasons people make empty promises

1. The inability to say ‘No’

Some people have a problem turning down request because they find themselves saying ‘yes’ to everything that comes their way. It’s good to say yes but sometimes you need to know where to draw the line in order to be happy.

 

2. Speaking before thinking

Sometimes we speak too soon without evaluating our needs, energy and time. You realize afterwards that you are caught between fulfilling the promise you made and knowing your limits.

3. The need to please others

No one loves rejection and most times, the need to please stems from the fear of being rejected. Maybe you are desperately trying to belong, so you’ll agree to just about anything at the expense of your happiness.

 

4. To manipulate and persuade

People make empty promises as a means to manipulate another into doing what they want without an intention to follow through. Using empty promises as a means for persuasion can bring distrust between both parties involved.

4 Best Compliments for Nigerian Women over 30

Let’s face it, Nigerian women love compliments more the men do, and when they are clocking 30 and above, the effect of the passage of time on them becomes more visible. Due to the norm in Nigeria where women over the age of 30 are considered “older women”, the single ones especially tend to feel less attractive and conscious of their looks as they no longer feel the rush of being ‘hot’ singles. The married, on the other hand, also battle with feelings of insecurity and also require a measure of reassurance as regards how they look.

Giving compliments is an easy way to make these breed of women feel better about themselves, especially if they have a particularly endearing quality that ensures their insecurities are not well founded. If you are friends with, dating or married to a woman over 30, Jovago.com, Africa’s No.1 online hotel booking site offers 5 best compliments to pay her. Putting a smile on her face will definitely come back to you in positive ways.

“You Are Gorgeous”

The usually compliment would be telling the woman that she is beautiful, but for a woman over 30, she has probably heard the word “beautiful” so many times in her teens and 20’s, and now considers it random or negligible. She may even see the compliment as something impersonal and take no mind to it. The word gorgeous is definitely a lot more powerful than the word beautiful. Swapping the word for “gorgeous”, however, makes her feel much more unique and elegant. She believes you are not just complimenting her for her looks, but you are also her personality and aura.

“You are so trendy”

Keeping up with the trends and fashion is a struggle for most women over 30 in Nigeria. They are at a point in their life where they start to realize that they are no longer as particular about things as they used to be, and the times are totally different. They start to harbor the secret fear that they are no longer current and they no longer what is in vogue. Some of them actually achieve fashionable looks anyways, while some in their determination to be on par with the recent trends tend to overdo it. While telling them they are trendy or fashionable sounds like the most boring lines ever, it can be extremely effective when you say it the right way. It tells her that her style attracted your attention because the way she dresses reveals her personality and her interest.

“You are so smart”

Nigerian women over 30 like to feel powerful and they like to know that others notice their achievements. Telling her she is smart is a good way to make her feel empowered and most importantly feel good about herself. It reveals to her that there is more to her that people notice and her body or beauty looks may not be a pivotal as she is afraid it might be. Also, in the case of the compliment coming from a boyfriend or husband,  it tells her that you respect and appreciate her for the fact that she is more intelligent than the average girl, so, there is less chance of you cheating on her with the pretty or younger faces.

“I feel like I can talk about everything with you”

This is one of the best compliments to pay a Nigerian woman over 30 as it communicates trust, appreciation and love at the same time. At their stage, they are very curious and tend to need a lot of assurance. They like to know that they are important to you enough that you want to confide in her and share your secrets. It also tells her that you appreciate her for the conversations and you have love the time you spend with her. Basically, it tells her that she’s still got it.

Ndem Nkem

Travel/Tech Writer Jovago Nigeria

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8 Ways You Should Never Break Up With Someone You Love

The end of a relationship is always sour for a lot of reasons and one reason that sits at the top of most is the way and manner in which the relationship was called off. As such, instead of looking for the best way to call off a relationship (there isn’t really any better way), it’s best to find know what ways you shouldn’t put an end to a relationship.


Here are 8 of the worst possible ways to put an end to a relationship.


The “It’s not you, it’s me” line
Probably the most cliché and overplayed line, very few people would appreciate this old and recycled excuse when they are about to be dumped by you. If you’re sure you’re the problem, it’s best you explain the exact thing about your partner that doesn’t gel well with your kind of person.
You most likely won’t go very far by telling them the kind of horrible person you are and how much you need to work on yourself in an attempt to deflect from the talk at hand. They will most likely respect you more if you are honest with them.


Getting Caught In An Untoward Act
Allowing your partner catch you cheating is one of the fastest way to get them to break up with you but it speaks volumes about your reputation. If your plan is to make them come up with a reason to leave you, you may end up having your plan blow up in your face if they choose to tow the retaliation path.
While Tipsy or Drunk
Quite a number of men go this way as having a few too many drinks might give them the guts to break the news of wanting to break up. This will be disrespectful to your partner because alcohol gives momentary courage at that point in time and you may likely regret the deed later on.
Chances are your partner may not even take you seriously and insisting on talking about it at a later time because they feel your state of mind is altered. It’s best to be sober and have a clear mind as you convey your points in a mature and respectable manner.
Through Writing
Either through texting, E-mails, BlackBerry Messenger or other messaging applications, breaking up in such an informal way is immature and heartless. It’s best to do it in person as this will likely pass you off as someone with integrity while also saving you from embarrassment.
Picking A Fight
This is one of the most disrespectful ways to quit a relationship. Starting a fight as an excuse to quit a relationship will only get your partner to resent you especially if they end up finding out that you manipulated them by blowing a small issue out of proportion as a means of putting an end to the relationship.
During A Romantic Evening
Breaking up with a partner during a romantic night out will likely cause shock and confusion. The time out does not necessarily mean they will be able to handle the news better as that night will hold negative memories for a long time.
Not Being Straightforward
Beating around the bush while trying to tell her you want a breakup will only make your partner more confused. Even though it’s important not to be blunt so as not to appear like someone without emotions, it is still important not to beat around the bush. If you’re not sure about the right time to tell your partner you’re breaking up with them, they may be shocked and dumbfounded to find out through a friend or on social media.
Getting A Friend To Do It
This one only confirms your legendary status as an uncaring asshole. It also shows how much of a coward you are since you could not even grant your partner the courtesy of breaking up with them while staring into their eyes.

3 ways to handle being a friend to a depressed person

Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses, yet most Nigerian don’t know how to deal with it. Here’s how to handle being a friend to a depressed person. 

 

 

Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses, yet most Nigerian don’t know how to deal with it. Here’s how to handle being a friend to a depressed person. 

Depression is a very delicate state of mind and it takes caution to deal with it. so, how do you deal with a friend with severe depression? Here are three tips to guide you:

Forgiveness:

One of the landmarks of depression is that the symptoms often seem like choices, such as your friend not reaching out to say hi. Once you understand that you are not being targeted but are rather collateral damage from what your friend is going through, then you won’t demand an apology from them. However, depressed people can do wrong in the usual ways that usual people do.

 

True friendship:

Keep in touch, however make it absolutely easy for the person to refuse your contact. For example, you could include in your messages, “No need to call/text back — I just wanted to say hi.” If you see something that reminds you of her, send it, but include a note: “I saw this and thought of you — no need to get back to me.” Removing that duty to respond upfront lets the pure caring shine through.

Both ways:

It’s a great idea that you don’t owe each other any apologies, however, when you do, it reminds you that you care about each other. However, it does need to be a mutual effort. On one hand, the extra mile is to apologize for the other’s misery, although it wasn’t intentional. On the other hand, the extra mile is not waiting for an apology from someone who went through a truly crazy experience.

If you do have a friend or relation who is battling depression, it is a truly serious disease that demands your attention, sensitivity, care and love. Try out these steps and let us know what you think.